According to
Wikipedia, In India, the term love marriage is
used to describe a marriage which is decided upon by the couple,
with or without consulting their parents or families. ... Social hurdles remain
as arranged marriages are preferred over love marriages in
most parts of the country.
A discussion on a
famous website asks an amusing question- Are love marriages in India worth it? Is it worth disappointing your
parents if more than half of the marriages are just a compromise? India has one
of the lowest divorce rates in the world, but does that mean everyone is happy
with their marriage?
These are questions most
lovers wouldn’t want to delve into but here is an interesting fact-
A survey published in The
Economic Times states that between 2001 and 2015, love was the officially
recorded reason for 38,585 murders and culpable homicide cases. Government
records also link it with 79,189 suicides. Further, 2.6 lakh kidnapping cases
were also filed in this period where marriage was mentioned as the motive of
'abducting' women. That's an average of seven murder cases, 14 suicides
and 47 kidnapping cases - mostly because somebody eloped and the families are uncomfortable with that idea
— every day.
Furthermore, the data
shows that Andhra Pradesh, followed by Uttar Pradesh, Maharashtra, Tamil Nadu
and Madhya Pradesh have witnessed the highest number of murder cases where love
was the stated motive.
Uma Chakarvarti, a retired professor who has done extensive
work on gender admits, "To understand this violence in oppressing a
person's exercise of choice when it comes to marriage, one has to understand
patriarchy and caste system."
So why do Indian parents hate love marriages so much?
Love marriage is not a part of our societal make up? It’s not
India’s DNA?
Opposing love
marriages means responsible parenting?
Parents feel they are
simply taking responsibility for their children’s future happiness by bypassing
the heartache of failed love by arranging marriages- seriously?
The discussion is
endless .
How can parents
manage and control their kids’ love life? What decides your
Children’s health and happiness better than the choice of
spouse?
Why such a fuss over
love marriages?
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